Susan is the mother of 5 who runs a successful swimming school business with her husband. Following is her perspective on being a part-time working mother, in other words, conceptually having the best of both worlds.
Do you find it easy or difficult to balance between career and home?
The ability to balance both career and home for me completely depends on the schedule I have for work. If I can smoothly arrange to be at work and the kids safely taken care of either at school or care provider then the part time work experience is a refreshing step “away” from all the stress, routine, and responsibilities of being a stay at home mom. However, if either groups, work or family, are suffering because you’re not there, the costs associated with your absence or low productivity at work or issues with being absent from your children hardly outweigh the stress associated with the part time job. In this respect, moms who work full time and have a set schedule every day, may actually have a less stressful existence working even though they’re gone more hours. Because it’s consistent. Far too often a part time schedule, if not done correctly, leaves the mom feeling like she’s half at work and half at home…….every minute. Really not feeling like she’s devoting the appropriate time to either.
Do you feel like you’re able to give 100% to both worlds?
Absolutely not. If you can’t get comfortable with giving WHATEVER % you’re able to give that day to either group as your BEST effort for that day……you will be miserable holding yourself to a standard that you can never meet. Working part time or full time with children means you are never 100% devoted to either as a mother. I hate to play that card, but I think men have much easier time giving 100% of their effort to work and still have kids at home if mom is at home taking care of the children OR a safe and healthy daycare situation has been set up so that Dad can devote 100% to work. Moms have a built in nurturing aspect that can never be turned off.
Men are hunters. When they are offered the opportunity to go out and “hunt” or work full time and give it their all……..they are physically designed to do so. But that same message for a mom is really almost contrary to how women are wired. Our focus isn’t the kill. It’s the home. We can be away trying to focus 100% on work…..but your family is always on your mind.
Do you have a desire to either stay at home or work full time?
I have always wanted to be home full time and believe it’s the best set up for husbands, wives, children, employers, and employees.
What is your least favorite thing about working PT?
The struggle to Keep the standards for work and home effort loose. Again, 100% is not attainable and every day you are challenged to be “OK” with whatever % you can give. Many times…..someone on either end will feel like they got the short end of the stick.
What benefits do you bring to the family, working part time and staying
home part time?
If done correctly and the schedule works for the mom, “stepping away” from home and kids for part time hours can be very refreshing. This typically means mom has a better perspective and not feeling as isolated, unrecognized, or burnt out as she might if she is staying at home full time and doesn’t have many outlets. Many times what appeared to be problems at the start of the day, after a few hours out of the house, interacting and focusing on other issues than your house and family………aren’t really problems after all OR you’ve had some alone time to at least think thru a few things and get some ideas percolating! There is also a contributing effect that a part time mom conveys to her children by working outside the house. Again, I think stay at home moms have the best set up going for their families, but if you have to work, one of the things you can show your kids is that WORK, either outside or inside the home, is meaningful, good….and necessary at times. It reinforces to kids that parents have to WHATEVER it takes to keep their families going. I think it can be a great work ethic reinforcement for children to see.
What is your favorite thing about working PT?
My staff and working on the business with them. I enjoy seeing them, watching their families and careers grow. I really enjoy being part of the team. I get overwhelmed being the only ONE in charge. As they say it gets lonely at the top. Luckily, we have so many good people working with us that I have learned to depend greatly on them to make good decision with me and remove some of the burden of owning and running your own business. I wouldn’t trade them for anything. They are the single reason I am able to have 5 kids, a marriage that works, and a thriving business. If they weren’t on the same page with me about balancing work and family, I’d be miserable and I’m sure the swim school would have fallen apart years ago.